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My life is full, my life is rich
When you come visit me allow me to say:
My friends are the gems of my life
My life is rich with smiles
My life is rich in hugs
My life is rich with love
My life is about passions and experiences
and these can not be taken away from me
they belong to my soul,
I’ll takes those memories with me to heaven
My man is my treasure,
when I open my chest
I find care, support, laugh, strentgh, kisses and hugs
I am so glad he found me while conquering his world,
I offered him rest along his journey and in return I found my King.
He is a Knight, an Adventurer.
My son is the reason I push myself to the limits
the reason I want to better my life and go for my dreams
He is my prince, my challenge, the reason behind my evolution
We walk hand in hand in this journey facing together many storms.
I am honored to serve the parents that come in my life
their babies are the realisation that I love what I do
and the awareness that my role is precious in their lives
I am a soul worker.
I am so rich
Making changes for a healthier life.
Posted by: | CommentsHealth issues are most of the time the reason why people decide to make changes in their life, and what people do first is a change their diet. The nutrition field contains a vast amount of information and contradictions, and people get lost in the process, they are confused as of what is really good for them. This can put pressure if you want to do it right the first time especially if your health depends on it. How do you know what is best for you?
Well nutrition is a journey, and you can go as far as you want to go depending on your goals, as my teacher says do you want to get healthy to just go by your daily routine or do your need your health to run a marathon, what he means by this is what is your lifestyle and your goals in life. How far do you want to go….
If you decide to make some changes do not put the pressure on yourself that you have to be perfect at those changes right away or you will feel very quickly overwhelmed . Take the time to think about where you want to be in the matter of health, about where you have to be to accomplish your goals. Is it to have more energy, is it to feel stronger, and how much stronger do you need to be to accomplish your goals, is it to sleep better, is it to put on weight or loose some weight, is it to have healthy hair, nails and skin. Spend some time to think in the areas of health and where you would like to be and symptoms you would like to get rid off, these are just examples to illustrates what I meant. Write them down on a piece of paper.
For example, I know that I need a huge amount of energy everyday to accomplish what I do, without it I can’t accomplish my goals, my diet was already good, but for the extra energy I need to reach for foods that are easy to digest, give me a lot of energy and fit my body type and metabolism. You don’t have to go this far although it would definitely benefit you, but when you have your goal and when you know where you want to be in health you make the changes to achieve this and then nothing stops you from adding more goals later on.
Nutrition is a journey, and a process, you work at it slowly and when you are ready you move to the next level. To be where I am at it took me 4 years of knowledge, trials and errors. Even if you just take two things to change in your life, you will greatly benefit from it, and even these two things will secure you on a healthier path.
You can be on a healthy nutritional lifestyle, whether you keep it simple or more refined, both will benefit you, each will give you different results but will benefit you.
Health is very simple and as long as you follow the simple four areas of health, you can’t go wrong:
They are: sleep, diet, exercise and hydration. As soon as you don’t feel good, you just need to ground yourself in these four areas, it means most of the time one of them is out of balance. Of cousre we are talking here about an imbalance not in the case of some more serious chronic ailments, although in these cases these four areas are critical.
Make some changes slowly, a little step at a time, you can start by adding something healthy on top of what you are already doing, for example, adding some superfoods in your diet like hemp seeds or hemp powder to your shakes, or adding some probiotics to your diet or a glass of a green drink a day is already a huge step and you body will thank you for that, you will feel the difference. When this has become second nature you can make other changes, that’s how you start building towards your health, a step at a time.
Birthing Myths
Posted by: | CommentsI lovingly understand the needs of creating myths around birthing. Birthing is the unknown in a couple’s journey, they spend nine months speculating on what it is going to be like based on myths such as you carry a girl if you carry high, or you will have a fast birth like your mother did, or an early birth if you’re tall, even within the medical experts we hear these comments all the time. Well, I have been in the birthing field for over 6 years, and I can tell you one thing, don’t try to label the way a birth is going to unfold, birthing is mysterious and unpredictable. Those myths have their place for untertaining discussions or to have a good laugh. When it comes to birthing it will simply unfold based on the emotional, physical and spiritual baggages parents carry with them or lessons they have to learn. Although, what will influence their birth is the preparation and education they put in to feel empowered in the process, it will also be the reflection of the loving relationship that is established or not within a couple, a mother well supported by her partner and family or friends will experience birth in a different way from a mother in an abusive relationship for example. The state of health of the parents is also a major key component of a successful birth. The best thing couples can do during pregnancy is not to get attached to those myths but to do the spiritual work that pregancy offers, education is also power, learn as much as you can about birthing, work on your emotional baggage, and moslty let go and trust, a mother needs to learn to let go and trust her body. I have seen so many births unfolding different ways. Not one birth is the same , it is unique to the couple and the mother, birthing is healing and will unfold exatcly the way it is supposed to be to bring up what the mother and father need to work on in their life and whatever emotions it is supposed to bring up. So let go of when baby will arrive and who is going to be there, but keep in your mind the positive image of what you would like it to be.
A New King is Rising
Posted by: | CommentsI realised this evening how my son has transformed and evolved in the last three months, I was watching him during his Karate class and saw how he grew so much more confident, he was just there rehearsing his Katas and he looked strong and confident.
He comes a long way, I made a promise to him a few years back; to give him health and self-esteem, and we succeeded. It is amazing the link between mother and child, and it is so true that the state of health of the mother dictates the state of health of her child, the healthier I am getting the healthier and stronger he becomes, I see this miracle unfolding month after month.
What I want to say today is watch out because a new king is rising! My little guy is tapping into his own power.
A mom and dad birthed their little boy like a queen and a king.
Posted by: | CommentsThat little boy got a wonderful start in life, his mom and dad had prepeared for his birth so well, they educated themselves and knew what kind of birth they wanted. They had prepared for a peaceful and happy natural birth and they assumed their role very well during birthing. Mom was to be relaxed the whole time and practiced her breathing, she was so in tune with her body, she totally surrendered to her birthing experience, and dad was making sure she stays relaxed and comfortable, he was present all all times, taking care of her, comforting her, and mostly kowing his role and fully embracing it. His wife was like a princess in his arms.
Their birth was like a beautiful dance, everything was so perfect, the timing, the team, the staff around them were absolutely in tune with them the whole time, they all respected their birthing choices.
At the time of breathing their little boy down, the picture in my mind will stay still forever, mom was on the birthing stool, I was supporting her at her back helping her through the experience, and when dad expressed to the obstretician that he wanted to receive his son into the world, the OB sat beside them in a yoga position, waited and smiled guiding dad how to receive his son, the nurse was taking pictures (and she did an absolutely wonderful job by the way!!). Everyone knew their role, we all had the same goal, to give this couple the birth they were dreaming of. It was beautiful, that little boy was born in peaceful way and in the hands of his father and I am so blessed that I was a part of all this.
Male and Female Energies, bringing wholeness to your selling skills.
Posted by: | CommentsI usually talk about birth, but this week I am all hooked on the Male and Female balance of energies within us idea. So if you read and were interested in the insights I wrote about yesterday, you will enjoy this real life example.
In the last few weeks I really had fun putting into practice the male and female parts of me in the art of selling. I want to bring wholeness in my selling skills and in my life. Selling is really an art, you can compare it to cooking if you like, you need the best ingredients to create the best receipes. In sales and consulting the ingredients are your client’s needs and concerns, you take them and prepare the best solutions for them.
Let’s apply the male and female energies in the selling process.
The female part of me wants to create the best solutions for my client, and my desire is to close the deal. For this I need to understand their needs and concerns. I can only do so if the client is at ease and comfortable with me so he/she can open up. The female attributes I need to express in order to do so are, the loving, caring and nurturing aspects, the listening skills, the filtering of what are the relevant or not so relevant parts in the discussion. Also feeling the energy flowing, receiving imprints and impressions both from the sensible and supersensible worlds from the person and the situation, and knowing how to respond and adapt to them as they flow through you. If throughout the process you just allow yourself to be these female aspects, you will get all the information you need to create the best solutions for your clients. You do this with skills, professionalism, softness and a smile on your face.
Now let’s turn to the male part in me, the male part is the part that will manifest the creation, in this sale scenario it will support in manifesting the solutions for the client. Signing the contract is a manifestation of the feminine desire to close the deal, the manifestation is supporting the idea with a concrete plan and acting on it.
The male part of me after reviewing the solution (the creation) knows that we now need the experts in certain fields to make things happen, so in that particular case I brought two managers with me at the next meeting. These two persons are experts in the fields the client and I were talking about. These two resourceful people I brought were the ones to make sure the solutions the female part of me had put together were feasible. The female part of me could now be at rest and let the male part of me conduct the project, put it into action with my two helpers. The male energies we tapped into in this scenario were reassuring, supportive, grounding, assertive, decisive, strong and negotiative.
The meeting was a success, and I know I got it right, the customer throughout the conversation used two keywords in one sentence, he looked at my manager and said to him ”your sales rep (it’s me) is very strong and she is a pearl”. Strong represent the male part in me that was in action, and the pearl referred of course to the female part in me, the softness, caring and loving energy.
Beside the fact that I turned all red after the compliment! I know I brought wholeness in my selling skills this week.
This book has been with me for many years, no matter how many times I read it, it is one of those books that always brings to you new insights. This is a book every woman on a self-discovery journey should have in her collection.
This book is like a map to follow if you get lost on your journey, if you forgot who you really are and if you deny yourself what you are entitled to. This book has its way to inspire you and put you back on track.
If you’ve also been working for a while on balancing the male and female parts in yourself, what is to follow will either confirm you are on the right track or completely off! Surprisingly enough that I recently made it my everyday task to nurture both sides, I took my favorite book, opened it and ended on chapter 10: Nourishing The Creative Life. This chapter is amazing, it talks all about the male part she calls the Animus and the Female part referring as the Wild Woman, and how they interact with each other to allow the flow of creativity to express but also to manifest itself.
I included below some passages of the book that will help you understand how some aspects of the male and female energies within us are to work together in a healthy state.
Women Who Run With The Wolves, by Clarissa Pinkola Estes.
Chapter 10, p 334:” The Hindus say that without Shakti, the personified feminine life force, Shiva, who encompasses the ability to act, becomes a corpse. She is the life energy that animates the male principle, and the male principle in turn animates action in the world.”
Chapter 10, p 336: ” Another way to understand this is to think of Wild Woman, the soul-self, as the artist and the Animus as the arm of the artist. Wild Woman is the driver, the animus hustles up the vehicle. She makes the song, he scores it. She imagines, he offers advice. Without him, the play is created in one’s imagination, but never written down and never performed.”
Chapter 10, p 337:” He brings ideas from out there back into her, and he carries ideas from her soul-Self across the bridge to fruition and to Market. Without the builder and the maintainer of this land bridge, a woman’s inner life cannot be manifested with intent in the outer world”.
Chapter 10, p 338:” In proper balance animus acts as helper, helpmate, lover, brother, father, king. It means there is kingly aspect existent in the woman psyche, a kingly element that when developed attitudinally, acts and mediates in loving service to the wild nature. Archetypally, the king symbolizes a force that is meant to work with a woman’s behalf and for her well-being, governing what she and soul assign to him, ruling over whatever psychic lands are granted to him.”
Chapter 10,p 339: ” It is very good for a woman to have in her psyche a devoted animus figure, strong, able to see far, hearing both in the outer and underworld, able to predict what is likely to occur next, deciding laws and justice by the sum of what he senses and see in all worlds.”
” The King or mentor, in a woman’s psyche is supposed to be able to help her realise her possibilities and goals, make manifest the ideas and ideas she holds dear, weigh the justice and integrity of things, take care of the armaments, strategize when she is threatened, help her unite all her psychic territories”.
I think, that’s enough to ponder about, have fun applying these wonderful insights in your life.
Are women facing birthing the same way they face life?
Posted by: | CommentsI believe it is true. Women face birthing the way they face life. The choices they will make in the birthing room will determine the outcome of their well-being and their child’s birth. The time couples put in preparing for their baby’s birth will determine its outcome. Just like we need to make decisions in life that will determine our successes or failures.
What I mean is that the state of mind and health that you are in will set the motion for the birth of your child.
I am a birthing practitioner and I prepare couples for this joyful event, I prepare them emotionally so they can change the outcome to a peaceful and happy moment. When parents are prepared and empowered they will make different choices, they will understand what is going on in the birthing room, and they will be less likely to give their birth away. They become the owners of their lives and are completely engaged in the birthing process.
I see how parents evolve during the class, educated parents make better decisions for themselves. It is the same for birthing, educated parents will make better decisions in the birthing room, before, during and after.
Let me tell you my story, stories are very powerful, everyone can relate to stories. It will I hope show you what I mean by “you face birthing the way you face life”.
This was before I had the knowledge of what I know today.
I grew up in a very critical and dysfunctional family, like many other people this led me to a path of low self-confidence and a need to please others for acceptance. I was very shy and did not speak up my truth. I let others dictate my life, by fear of being criticized and scolded. I could not stand up for myself in front of my families, nevertheless could I do it in front of strangers, nurses and doctors which represent the authority figure.
At the age of 29 I became pregnant, a pregnancy that was very difficult. I was in an abusive relationship, abusive working conditions and a family that totally abandoned me for the first few months of pregnancy because they did not approve of my relationship and my pregnancy.
I felt horrible, scared, sad, abandoned not understood, angry, helpless, and all this was transferred to my little baby, he was feeling it. All of this had tremendous negative effects on me and at 5 months of pregnancy I started showing signs of distress. The outcome led me to the emergency room and my son’s birth became a medical intervention which set the mode for years of lack of health and unhappiness. We went from an induction, with a very painful birth, an epidural and an episiotomy 3 layers deep and 20 stitches. My son’s heart beat was failing, but he survived and so did I. I was very lucky that we did not end up with a C-section, it was close but we made it. During the whole process I had tubes and needles coming out of everywhere and no one would dare telling me what they were for, they were all too busy, and anyway I was not asking any questions either by fear of being annoying or needy. So I let everyone do what they had to do, no one cared, I was just a number, just the next one that would also be screaming in the room. And even though I only let out one scream throughout the whole process I was told to shut up, while the other women were still screaming in the other rooms. I was thinking why can they scream and I can’t? But here too, I would never dare saying such a thing, so I remained quiet….
I left the hospital feeling sad and for the rest of my life I will have regrets of what my son’s birth could have been, it was supposed to be joyful. I faced birthing the way I faced life.
Would I have known at the time what I know now, my son’s birth would have been totally different. First I would not have allowed myself to stay in these kinds of relationships. My baby would have had a more peaceful gestation time. I would have educated myself too. At the time, I did what pretty much everyone does, when you give birth you go the hospital , you trust the nurses and the doctors, I thought they were there for your own good.
So yes, I would have educated myself of the different options available. Where and who I can birth with. I also know now that less stress in your life, a good nutrition plan, a birthing plan, reading a few good books goes a long way. Having supportive people around you makes the success of you baby’s birth too, a loving partner, loving family, labour support and practitioners you can trust that can be there for you when you need the emotional support. That’s your birthright.
This story is not about looking back in the past, it is not about feeling bad or blaming, but it is to show you how women with different state of mind can have different birth experiences.
It is so important for parents to be healthy on all levels and to educate themselves about birthing and their rights, it will strongly influence the outcome of your baby’s birth.
The joy of birthing!
Posted by: | CommentsToday one of the couple who followed the class said how much they wish this class didn’t end yet, and how much it changed their life. This absolutely brings this warm, fuzzy feeling in my heart, you know the warm, fuzzy feeling you get when you are in love. So I want to thank this couple for saying this to me today, I realised how much I am in love with what I do and teach.
I so love the feeling of teaching and empowering couples, time stops when I am in my HypnoBirthing class. We are all gathered together with one goal, to learn the beauty and art of birthing, as it truly is an art; the art of following your body’s lead and the art of connecting with who you are as a person and as a couple. Many couples not only find themselves during the class but also are getting to know eachother, they discover many special places and emotions they did not know they could share together. Isn’t it beautiful! I don’t know of many other prenatal classes that can offer you this gift!
I love watching parents evolve through the program. They all start with a feeling they want something different, another experience for the birth of their child. It is so nice to see them week after week shedding the fears of birthing, finding their own power, and going for what their really want. Most of them are amazed of the change they go through, some of them even choose something they never thought they could do, a home birth experience with a midwife for example! That’s wonderful!
I love watching mon and dad getting closer and being in touch with their emotions. They both learn to relax and enjoy the gift of pregnancy, can you imagine going through a pregnancy without dreading the birthing day! HypnoBirthing parents look forward to birthing, you don’t see this in most prenatal classes either!
Welcome Zoe!
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I am pleased to present you with our new addition, her name is Zoe, our little female cat. So when you come to the clinic you will be greeted by her too. She loves to have her tummy rubbed!
And at the same time let me introduce you to our bunny named WALL-E, for those who are familiar with us you all know him well but I thought I put him there too or he may get jealous.
Well, Clementine and WALL-E are getting along very well, it is a pleasure to watch them play together. WALL-E was very excited the first minute he saw her!!!